Sounds like you've got it covered and you're doing good on your detachment. I think that's great. In my original BD sitch several years ago, I found all kinds of useful information (I'm a software engineer) that allowed me to know, unbeknownst to my W, that she hadn't followed through on the no contact agreement. To this day she still doesn't know everything I know.
My W contracted an incurable venereal disease from her time with the OM...last I heard, she seemed to think he knew he had it and didn't tell her. Now I'm not so sure that she didn't get it from someone else and gave it to him.
Either way, I took enough precautions that I never got it. Anything reasonable you have to do to protect your physical health is something you should do.
In our sitch, my wife had unprotected sex with her POS OM for over 3 years and didn't tell me until their R was over. She contracted herpes. A couple or three months later, our youngest son (for the first time ever) started having cold sores on his mouth. I can't prove definitively that she somehow passed it to him, but it certainly hasn't helped me get over anything.
Rest easier my understanding is that the two types of Herpes are different, I suffer with cold sores which are type 1. Both types are herpes simplex. There are two strains type1 and 2. Type 1 can move from mouth to genitals, but I understand that type 2 is genital only and pretty unpleasant. Type 1 is less yucky and very easy to catch.
That's my understanding, no doubt some of the more medically inclined could urther.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
