Focus22 I have asked myself the same question what happened to the girl I fell in love with. She says that she had an awakening and is now someone different.
I have heard this from my H as well.
Originally Posted By: shotgun
The truth is that I do not want to be with the new person that she woke up to be.
Yeah, me neither. I don't really like this new person. He's very, very selfish, arrogant, thoughtless and sometimes downright cruel as well.
Originally Posted By: shotgun
It has taken some time to detach from her because I love her without condition. I can now however define what I need in a wife. I need someone who is truthful and loyal and at peace with their life. All of the women that I ever dated had daddy issues. It took a lot of expensive therapy to come to that conclusion but now I know. I have always known that happiness came from inside me and now I will find a woman who knows that as well!
I've been chatting with my counsellor about what I've found attractive in men in the past and how my relationships have unfolded (the few before I met my H as well as with my H). And there's definitely a pattern there. That's something I wasn't aware of before all of this, so that's good.
