She Wants Me to Leave 3rd Time .....EA or not EA?

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Nothing picked up so far. Not sure how reliable the recorder is. It is supposed to stop recording when DB level drops below 30DB. There is only one time stamp as well. There was a lot of heavy rain last week and I think the recorder picked that up
It recorded 90 mins mainly of nothing but car noise and background. I need to fully charge it and try again.

I also got into another of her email accounts (she is rubbish with passwords) - one she occasionally uses (not work) and there was no evidence of EA/PA

Another bizarre conversation with W. Sometimes I think she is sooooo naive!

I'm getting my lunch when she starts to talk about a male friend at the gym who is infatuated with a married woman who goes to the same gym.

W tells me that he is infatuated but just wants to be this woman's friend and now she is telling him to back off and it's led to a big falling out that other people have noticed. This woman has unfriended him on FB and might change gyms and he is upset etc.

I say that he needs to back off and he is trying to ruin a marriage. W defends him (he only wants to be her friend) but agrees he needs to forget about her and move on but he can't.

I had to be careful and not come across too judgemental or critical of her friend. The conversation continued with us both agreeing that he needs to back off from this woman. He must have come across as pursuîng her too much and she has told him to back off and he hasn't, so she put her foot down. W used the word stalker but also suggested this woman wasn't blameless as she had said this guy was hot after too many drinks during a night out. She said the guy had made latched onto small compliments from this woman

I wanted to say that her friend was a potential marriage breaker and just wanted to get this woman into bed, that he was morally wrong etc but felt I should hold my tongue.

This convo convinces me that W sees her friendship with OM as perfectly normal, and not inappropriate. To her OM is just a friend. If it was more would she have told me this conversation

Remember this from last Sunday? Well, I rang W from the motorway to check childcare arrangements for tonight and tried to end the convo but she wanted to tell me about the bloke in the extract above.

Apparently he has freaked her out by getting her involved in his sorry tale. According to the guy a female friend of his holds a grudge against W for an unknown reason. W doesnt want any part of seemingly childish behaviour and told this guy so. She was supposed to be going to a carvery with him and some more gym friends on Sunday but has now declined. She is backing away from him.

I said he's probably got W on his stalking list and is trying to draw her into his plots and schemes. He's desperate and burning bridges at the gym with his Girlie friends. W sort of agreed and said she couldn't understand what was going on and thought him a sad loser.

It was good to be able to validate her feelings on this one.