Now what?

[melweb]

Here is what I have decided:

1) I am going to get a job regardless of what it could do to future spousal support. It is for ME, and I need to get out of these 4 walls! (I have an interview at the Y tomorrow.)
2) I AM a person only a fool would leave!

Yesterday, when he got home from biz trip, I mentioned we should tell S15, as I believe he already knows. Why? Because he said "dad is leaving us."
Then I get a text asking if I am still thinking of going back to NY with S15, -- he is very fearful of this and has asked me 4 times. I did not answer. Followed by a text that says "What if time apart is all we need?" I did not answer.
I am not making life altering decisions via text.
When I got home, I told him I was going to see what S15 wanted to do, but since he officially does not know, then neither do I. We should tell him. H says its too soon

I am trying to validate, as I believe this is what we need to work on the most. Plus, it is a 180 for me., as I would usually go " yeah, well I'm tired too!!"
How do I answer these questions :
Do these pants look good on me?
Is this sweatshirt too tight?
Can you tell that I have lost weight?
( Ummmmmm... Right now you look like a big fat jack***, who is leaving me and the kids, so no, I can't tell if you've lost weight)

I used to think his LL was Acts of Service, but now I'm thinking its Words.