So told best buddy wife and I are having some major problems didnt want to give him detials but he had his suspisions already and when he ask me if she was seeing another guy i wastnt about to lie for her. He was quite upset i told him not to worry about me and that i will be ok no matter what happens. What else can i tell him i dont want this situation to be a burden on him.
M30 - W29 - S1.5 EA/PA Confirmed - Oct 30, 2015 Confronted W about the A - Nov 1, 2015 W asked for seperation - Nov 22, 2015 W moves out of house - Jan 3rd, 2016
Well if you GAL you will be just fine regardless what happens. That you said it just right. Now you just need to GAL and believe it yourself.
I Agree not easy to get out and GAL this time of year with the little guy S1 no one avilible to babysit if i need them. Anyways i been hitting gym to this point thats the majority of my GAL. I need sign up for something. Thinking dancing lessons or curling team or something. I do honestly beleive ill be ok no matter how things end up. I just feel like working things out is option 1A. Right now im working towards 1B and to coin a term i recently heard leaving the gate open to 1B.
M30 - W29 - S1.5 EA/PA Confirmed - Oct 30, 2015 Confronted W about the A - Nov 1, 2015 W asked for seperation - Nov 22, 2015 W moves out of house - Jan 3rd, 2016
Working things out is nice but is not going to happen until OM is gone. The most effective way to get OM out of your W's head is to detach and GAL. That is why not attending the bday party or giving cards and presents is the right course. It is why not looking sad and depressed, even if you are, is important.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5
Think about your current situation for a minute. Since your W has focused her attention on OM and not you has your thoughts about her increased or decreased? Do you have more desire to be with her than you used to? The same will happen to her when you focus your attention on you and other things than your W. She would to have you as her plan B forever. IF you make it obvious plan B is not going to happen she will focus more attention to you to get you back to safely in the plan B zone. This gets her mind off OM and onto you. Fog begins to clear.
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Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5
The sh!t has hit the fan W came home crying shes screaming at me she hates me. All because i told my buddy about our sitch. She says any hope we had to get back together is out the window. What the f*ck
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M30 - W29 - S1.5 EA/PA Confirmed - Oct 30, 2015 Confronted W about the A - Nov 1, 2015 W asked for seperation - Nov 22, 2015 W moves out of house - Jan 3rd, 2016
M30 - W29 - S1.5 EA/PA Confirmed - Oct 30, 2015 Confronted W about the A - Nov 1, 2015 W asked for seperation - Nov 22, 2015 W moves out of house - Jan 3rd, 2016
Just shut your mouth and let her blow. Her fantasy is losing its shine and that is not a happy place. Just sit back, validate if necessary, but keep your mouth shut.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5
M30 - W29 - S1.5 EA/PA Confirmed - Oct 30, 2015 Confronted W about the A - Nov 1, 2015 W asked for seperation - Nov 22, 2015 W moves out of house - Jan 3rd, 2016
