Unlurking, Rd II: Hitting reset

[SciDad]

Hi V!

The sentence that got the truth from my WH was "we both know the truth don't we?"

I also said "if you are going to try to mislead me, that will make things worse"

This sounds almost exactly like my initial confrontation with my W. I'd been monitoring her for over a month and finally had a chance to confront her (my in-laws were staying with us and it didn't seem like a great idea to do it in front of them). I believe I said "I am going to ask you a lot of questions, most of which I already know the answers to. Do not try and figure out what I know. All I want is the truth."

Beware... truth darts... can be a game changer

That is why they are best saved for the right moment. And I need to be prepared for the worst outcome. If I can't handle it, I can't use my info yet. I've already had to use intel twice to catch my W in lies. I don't like having to treat her like a child and double-check what she says, but she has given me no choice.

I believe in Intel. Five serving friends, who, what, when, where and why.

I think the real reason I like to have Intel backing me up is that I've learned that my wife is a better lair than I realized, or maybe I have a harder time seeing the truth because I'm too invested.
Knowing the truth while she tries to lie not only gives me ammo against her, but it also gives me insights into her tells as she lies. Too much info? Talking a bit excitedly? That's because she's lying to my face....