Thanks M, that is pretty much what I tell her. That I love my family, that I am committed to each member of the family and that sometimes means putting my own needs or wants on hold when someone is struggling- I remind her of her recent hospitalization and how I didn't judge her behavior and I was there for her and will continue to be, and now Dad is struggling with his own issues and our marriage has some issues, and please be patient with him and find it in herself to be respectful to him, and also understand it is not her problem and that she needs to focus on her own stress management and school.
She told me that she hates the way he treats me, he doesn't treat me with love or respect, and she thinks I deserve better. I tell her thank you for caring about me, but she doesn't see the whole picture, and then I refer back to what I already said. In our last counseling session I asked her more clearly in counseling to stay out of the marital issues, that it was a boundary she was crossing and maybe she could discuss it with her IC. She seemed to "get it" but it is a hard situation.
