Unlurking, Rd II: Hitting reset

[SciDad]

V, I'm so happy you're here and thank you for your kind words.

I share your distinction between snooping and Intel, although I had no way to express it. I am not looking to snoop. I am strategically gathering Intel.

When my wife's behavior changed I looked at her phone to see if my trust was misguided. Now I know it was, and that more time is needed. She may break off the early or she may not. That is her choice. I don't need or want the sordid details.

But I have the info I need. She is still not ready to commit to the marriage. Any additional info is distracting to me.I will continue to db and work on myself. Lord knows I have plenty to keep me busy on that front