Julie, you asked for opinions and I have one for you, this is a Trojan Horse. I can't quantify it but my gut is screaming don't take the bait. This is all about his whats and desires. This effort is not primarily for you, it is for him. His words: "he has been lonely and miserable and depressed". If it was me and I behaved like him, I would be kissing your caboose and handing you the checkbook. You said " A real action would have been if he gave me back money from past few months which were not retroactive. I said that to him and he said no. So that kind of shows no?" Really, I think this speaks volumes about his motivation. I'm not buying what he's selling, he's many days late and more then a few dollars short.
I know this is hard because of the emotions involved. I believe in love and happy endings and want the best for you. I strongly recommend you go slow with him and keep the legal process moving forward. Let him prove himself, if it's an act he will not be able to sustain it. Beware of Greeks bearing gifts.
