New or false hope?

[JulieH]

JPEG, yes it was nice to hear, but I am afraid to believe them. He also said he has no expectations or hope but feels we owe it to kids to try (he said everything I was saying months ago). I just keep envisioning an attorney telling him, "listen she wants to reconcile right? Tell her there's a chance and buy yourself some time so you can ... ". I am also mad as well. I feel like his behavior torwards me was horrific. I am also afraid of having a relationship similar to his parents (which is what it seems like he wants) I have to reread DR and some relationship books now that are very pro marriage.

Tl2, I will stay detached and make sure he is initiator. If he truly wants reconciliation, he will put the effort in, but at this point for me to do anything will be pursuing and I will never do that again. My husband's good qualities is that he is honest, direct, and not a womanizer. He is not impulsive at all and takes a long time to make decisions. His bad qualities are that he does not communicate well, he has been enabled by his mom and often feels like family owes him to help out, his needs come first, and he procrastinates. He is weird with money and is so independent that he often looks out for what is better for him instead of family unit.

Pho, you are right about time telling. My big flaw is that I am not patient. Wouldn't a divorce busting meet up group be the best! We would never lack for conversation!