She Wants Me to Leave 3rd Time .....EA or not EA?

[Georgia Bulldogs]

I'll try to keep an eye out this weekend for any big posts by you. Please go somewhere away to listen to the tapes and say some prayers before confronting if and when you discover way more than you ever thought possible. It'll be the biggest punch in the gut you've ever received if she's actually cheating on you and how you handle the few hours after that will be something you remember for the rest of your life.

You are cared about here. Bring it here and let's talk about it before you rush off to confront. It REALLY hard to be rational and strategic about such information but it can make all the difference. Remember too, you want to be able to corroborate the evidence separate from the recordings such that she'll never know you recorded her. If you don't the whole debate will be about "how dare you record me" and how doing that is the final straw versus being about her incredibly devastating and hurtful behavior. You don't have to prove she's having an affair because if she is...she knows it. Just need a reasonable and reliable way to say you know.

For example - take notes on the conversations - if she indicates in the recording that she went to his house last night after the kids went to be or that OM came over you could say you hired a private investigator and he had a surveillance camera in the house and took pictures of OM entering and leaving on _______ night and then the PI followed her to ______ where I think he again photographed you kissing the OM. I haven't seen the pictures yet. You say he rang you and told you it all and maybe even have a friend call your phone at a certain time and you just fake a conversation. Make it really believable and she'll cave in and the truth will be out there without ever having to tell her how you discovered it REALLY. You even can say you refuse to look at the pictures because you couldn't stand the thought (thus you are able to keep the content of the photos vague).

Maybe you discover nothing and most of your suspicions can be set aside and you can focus on trying to recover your marriage.