If I asked for proof on what she spent the money on I would be doing it for the principal of it as this time it totals $150 on "kids clothes". I don't think its a large amount of money to bother.
She is dipping into a government monthly child benefit we get that's around $300 per month.
She doesn't see how using the joint for her own expenses makes it hard to keep track of that money and if it was spent on the kids or on her personal expenses.
We don't have a kids college fund. Most people use the child benefit to save for that. This is a sore issue for me as well.
Plus I make more that her and she is giving me a break on the split of bills (her words).I pay 56% of each bill.
As you can tell with out a legal document telling each person the rule of engagement, there are no rules just agreements that can change as time goes on.
So with the big picture a head of me I will let this one go, but I wont forget, and I wont stop looking at the expenses.
It just made me mad that my work last month put a travel expence into the joint account and I said just take it off what I owe, she acted like it was her money, and that was money that was to go for gas and wear and tear on the car and toll charges. I said no its an extension of my paycheck. But ok the toll was $50 and gas was not even a tank of gas. She was fighting tooth and nail for $100 left after I paid those expenses. She wouldn't let me take it out. So yes I dropped that as well. I left it in the account. Why because she was arguing about it so much that I just wanted it to end.
Yes nice guy, thinking it was my fault for not updating bank info with that department of my work. And for backing down after getting a lot of resistance. Then I take the passive aggressive way to fix it. If I get extra pay from my work I don't tell her.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
