Hi GB. I haven't told H we are going away. I mentioned the possibility to my MIL because she was talking about what to do for gifts this year. She was very supportive, agreed we all needed the vacation.
I am absolutely positive H would not even consider trying to join us - he doesn't want us - he will more likely be relieved as will his younger OW - it will mean more alone time for them:( Well... Correction..H wants to play the role of loving father (but only on special occasions) he is asking me for gift ideas for the kids and even suggested we go shop together. - last year I would have dropped everything for this and been so elated - this year I am asking myself "why is he asking me""?"
You are correct I haven't turned off the sync on my iPhone. It isn't something that anyone else could monitor - it has also provided me with info on the "under the table" money he is making on the side - he likes to update OW with how much he has made
I really really really really struggle with the no contact - especially now - he is asking what he should buy for presents, memories of when they were little - is S playing hockey etc. I have responded to specific questions about the kids but very minimally and I have not replied to cute texts about happy memories - but that hurts. I want to reply. To me it feels like not replying is closing the door on him.
