Mona, I have been waiting for MC, S's IC or H's IC to tell him to be a Dad and nobody will do anything but validate him and make very gentle suggestions, so gentle and non-assertive that it goes straight over H's head.
I think maybe its for the best right now if he isn't connected to the kids until/unless he gets his head on straight. Also that worries me if we do D, what is he going to do during his custody days? I will cross that bridge if/when I come to it.
