Vise
I eventually told my wife the account she had access to is for the kids and food for the house. She tried to say that is all she used it for, i then gave her specific examples and told her there is a new charge every day from stores and i know the kids do not need stuff that much. She eventually stopped after i said something and it was drastically different with the spending.

stand up

M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15