I think you are going to really regret agreeing to her spending and not having to produce a receipt. If she has done this for years, why in the world have you allowed it? And.....you are still allowing it, and you don't even know if she's going to stay M to you.

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Standing up for what I want and think is right is tiring when W puts up a fight about it every time.


But that's how nice guys do, right? It is easier for them to just let the W do whatever she wants, rather than stand up to her.

She is affecting the children's benefits. She is not going to just stop....not as long as she gets nothing more than you complaining a little. You have to protect what is suppose to belong to the kids. Some day when she comes out of this, she'll be saying, "Why didn't you stop me from spending everything"?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!