Be careful Julie. I was in a similar position years ago with my W and I DB'd good for a while. We finally decided to stop MC and felt like we were doing good on our own. We were not. The truth was she was going to MC mainly for damage control and to make herself look like she was a 'decent person'.
I eventually allowed my expectations to inflate even though her actions weren't really matching her words. That's on me, even though she went along.
He might do just that. Not intended to be cruel, but because it meets some desire of his, and he's oblivious or unconcerned with how it affects others. But remember, he's very confused/conflicted/etc right now too.
What I wished I'd done, for myself: I'm glad I stayed with the marriage and kept the family together because that was my vow for better or worse. However, I should not have been so quick to reconnect, and I ended up after several months trying to drive the reconnection rather than waiting for her to when/if she ever became ready.
In the 80s Reagan used to say, Trust, but verify. I'd say in this kind of sitch it's, Verify, then decide when and if trust is warranted.
