There is a small part of me that enjoys watching this, I have to admit. The EA is ending, from outward appearances, but she's in limbo, and doesn't know what to do. She's still digging the hole. I will reinforce my boundaries, and let her know that I truly care about her, and want her to get any help she needs.
Depending on why the EA ends, will matter a lot. In other words, if she isn't ending it to save her M, then there could be a lot of back & forth making up, etc. Even if it finally burns out, she has stuff she has to deal with.
As for offering to get any help she needs, I would hold off telling her right away, unless she has said she needs someone to help her. That suggestion from you might not set too well with a WW. Don't misunderstand, when the A ends, she will definitely need your support.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
