If you can learn how to embrace the change (which doesn't mean you have to be happy about it or that you're not sad about her choices), I have found that it makes me stronger and as a result it makes everything a bit easier.
I kind of look at it like I am on a boat and the captain had a heart attack or something and the boat is drifting aimlessly toward the rocks, etc. Either nobody else is around or none of them are doing anything.
You realize you have to grab the wheel and the throttle and take charge of your direction else you and everyone else are in a very tight spot. So you take the controls and do what you can. Maybe you already know how to handle a boat. Maybe you're learning on the fly because someone has to do it. Either way, it's the situation you're in and you're only choice is what to do about it because you can't go back in time and you're not superman and can't just fly off or pick up the boat and fly it to shore.
It doesn't mean you're happy to be there holding the wheel. It only means that sitting there and being upset about the situation without doing what is required helps nobody at best, and hurts everyone at worst.
