Thanks dday and roiste for the support. I think I may be floundering due to lack of goals. I'll give that some today.
roiste, I try to do this fast, clock is ticking.
how is your W in general?Is she happy, depressed,eetc?Is her life good? Does she GAL a lot? Does she moop around the house? Is she negative or positive in general (a part from interactions with you).?
She enjoys her work. She shifted her hours to work with manager 9-10 am to 7-8 pm. Partially for work, partially to avoid me. Seems down at home, perks up some with kids but not enthusiastically happy. Her life is okay, she works at home on line, surfs web, reads and watches tv. She retreats to her room after dinner and maybe a little kid hanging out. Nothing like before. She does not GAL most of the time, occasionally she will have dinner with girl friends, maybe once every 3-4 months. Mope's around house, not really but seems down and stays to herself a lot.She used to be positive, now neutral to a slight bit negative.
In your opinion or her words why is she still there?
I said I'm not going anywhere till youngest graduates high school in 2 1/2 years and she could move out if she wanted. She said days later I would not leave you alone with kids. I think that she really agreed with me but would not admit it.
How do you act around her? Are you silently churning everything in your head or are you actively present?
I say good morning each day. Other then that I do not speak to her unless she speaks to me first. She does not share anything other then household management. I am silently churning everything in my head.
Is there something you can do to change the dynamics?
Not sure, any recommendations.
I do not want to divorce. I want my wife back. I think I need to engage her, get her talking to me. Help me please.
