Let me ask you this: Was the 'old wife' you want back and who you originally met attracted to someone who was clinging to her every word or action? Or was she attracted to you when you were independent and doing your thing?
Dropping the rope and moving forward isn't quitting on the marriage. It takes 2 to make the marriage work and she's the one walking away right now.
But allowing yourself to turn into a pile of mush IS QUITTING ON YOURSELF. And you're not any good to a marriage, to kids, to potential mates, to yourself... if you've quit on yourself.
