I don't honestly know. I thought she'd broken it off with the OM, which is why we did the MC. There was a few days when I found her at home crying after work and I wasn't sure if it was about the OM or work. Our counseling has now ended and it's clear they are back together now.
It's possible she broke things off while we were in counseling, but decided to start things up again now that we're not. But realistically she was probably seeing him the whole time.
One of the problems is that she doesn't know I know they are back together, so it's hard for me to push the issue. I simply wasn't in the right frame of mine to confront her again when I found out. I need to get it out into the open, but (and I hate to admit this) I'm scared. Not so much of her reaction, but mine. I could very easily see myself trying to beat the living snot outta the OM, or start crying like a baby, or telling my wife that I never want to see her again.
None of those responses are productive and I'm trying to figure out better alternatives. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
