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[Mona52]

I had forced contact with H today.

I took my S to his counselor. The school suggested he seek help for his porn issue. The counselor does not consider following girls in bikini's on Instagram porn any more than I do, thank goodness. But the session turned out great.

My S really seemed to enjoy it and felt good to be able to talk to someone. But then the C started asking about H. I stayed as quiet as possible and let me S do all the talking. But the C wants to speak to H.

The C asked my S if he wanted H to come in for some of the sessions, and my S tearfully said no way. The C asked my S if he wanted to spend more time with his dad and my S said yes.

So the C asked me to contact H and give him a head's up that he wanted to speak to him.

Me: S's therapist will try and contact you tomorrow at your cell phone number

H: Why does S have a therapist. What's wrong?

Me: I really don't feel like trying to text everything that happened in the past few weeks, tomorrow is NHD and we have to get prepared

NC since I sent that. NHD is National History Day at S's school. We have been preparing all year. My S did a project on William Penn. It has consumed us for the past few months, and S is the third kid to go through it. My older daughter's also did it, but I would bet my next rent check that H has no idea what I meant when I said NHD is tomorrow.

I am sorry that my H has no clue what is going on with S, but he fired me from wife duty and friend duty, so I dont see how it is my job to fill him in. The C will ask him questions tomorrow and he will have no answer, and that is not in my control. I did not separate my H from my S. So I cannot control the consequences of my H's actions.

Other than that, the session was great and I feel so hopeful it will help my S. The C asked about goals and they are going to work together on organization and homework. It is such an immense relief someone in the world is helping me help my S.