SciDad - I too am a scientist. And our stories are scarily similar. My H "helped" a work collegue (18 years his junior) through her divorce (a 2 yr marriage) and that's when EA started 4 years ago. They are now living together and trying to keep it a secret. He is her supervisor at work. He has told a few of his younger office colleagues and they think it's "cool" cause she is "hot".
