Thank you vise82! I've always loved learning new things. I'm one of those eternally curious people smile

We will indeed, shotgun.

Today turned out quite well - your prayers and positive vibes worked!

I had to practically drag myself out of bed. But I got ready and managed to get out of the house.

I got a whole load of my own work done this afternoon, and met a new customer too. I'm going to like working with her, so fingers crossed she thinks the price I give her is OK and she signs her contract.

I stayed late (until 10.00pm) and am starting to catch up with everything that I fell behind with in October. Started filling my diary for January 2016.

Got another bunch of compliments today, in spite of not feeling my best ('very glamorous' from a gay colleague of mine, and 'beautiful' from someone else ).

Came home again and fancied a G&T. Went to open my bottle of Hendrick's that was a present from someone I worked for last summer. The job I worked on was amazing, I absolutely loved it despite working crazy hours (16 hour days). One of those jobs that changes your life for the better in so many ways.

Anyway, discovered that the bottle was almost *entirely* empty (apart form 1 very lonely measure, right at the bottom).

My H had drunk it all, and he doesn't even *like* gin. I don't know what on earth he drank it with, because there's been no tonic in the house for ages. The only thing I can think of is coke. But who would drink gin and coke? That seems weird.

I just feel really sad. He's been blitzing his brain with a *huge* amount of alcohol for 4 or 5 years now, and a lot of drugs too (not bad ones, but I'm really clean living....I like to feel healthy...so it's not something I would ever do). I got to the stage of hiding drink and drugs from him when it he got bad.

I just feel really sad for him this evening. Where did that man I fell in love with, married, and knew so well for 13 or 14 years go?


Me: 48, XH: 42
T: 18 years, M: 15 years

EA/PA 1: 6/2012
EA/PA 2: from autumn 2012-present

BD: 5/2013
ILYBNILWY BD & left: 10/2015

OW conceived: 8/2016
Born: 4/2017

H filed: 7/2017
D final: 28/12/2017