My wife had an affair..

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Im really not trying to come across as mean or harsh. I really just want you to see the impact that your words and actions have. I might be a little blunt sometimes, but I think it's more effective than being extra wordy.

We all want the same thing - for ktfo to be the best version of ktfo possible. Just remember...Everyone here is on your team.

I understand. trust me I do. I seem to find all sorts of what to do's and what not to do's. communicate, don't communicate. talk about your feelings dont' talk aboutyour feelings.

Yeah. You can look out on the internet and find all sorts of theories. Other ones might work or they might not work. I believe in this one.

What for sure WONT work is mixing and matching.

I know what I want. I want to heal. I want to be me again. I'm a happy happy person, a nice caring giving person to all, and right now I'm not me. If I could snap my fingers I would and be over it. I wish I could.

So what do you WANT?
Then we can figure out how to get you there.