I probably didn't write this so eloquently as I'm annoyed so sorry.
Dont be sorry to me. Im just responding to the words you put on the screen.

She wants this to work, I want this to work. She regrets what she did and is sorry for it.
She regrets DOING it, maybe. But does she have REMORSE? Judging from the things you write, I think no.

I'm working on me. I'm trying to heal for me.
Are you? It sounds from what you wrote that you are more interested in healing your marriage...

I said trying being me because, she seems to not have the understanding of what she did and the impact on us and me.
This is you trying to mind-read. Im guessing she understands. And you playing the victim doesnt make you ATTRACTIVE to her. What are you looking to achieve by saying that?

I don't think she realizes it takes time to heal from this or am I wrong? I have listend, I have taken the advice, I've done alot of the stuff.
It does take time. But why are you putting so much pressure on HER? You do not need HER in order for YOU to heal...

HEr constant them is: I want you to be happy. I want us to move on. I'm focusing on me btw, I'm reading, seeing a counselor, and trying to find me again.
So then cut it out with all of the dating stuff for now. Focus on you.

I have said "i'm working to become a better me, a better man" I got this response, you don't need to be better you are great the way you are.. she don't do it for me, and I said I'm not doing it for you I'm doing it for me! I need to be better for me.
Why are you bothering to get into this fight. Just say "Im becoming the man I want to be" and call it a day. Theres no way she can argue with that, right? Stop using better/worse/right/wrong, etc. Just be the person you want to be.