Open Question: what is the proper balance between acting "as if" and an be acting like a doormat?
Some examples would be to act as if you are confident, even if you feel insecure. To act act as if you are keeping it together, even though you feel you are losing it. To act as if you are a real cool guy, even if you don't feel so cool. To act as if you are going to be fine, although your thoughts may cause you doubt. To act as if you are moving forward and enjoying life........although it is a struggle most of the time. To act the detaching principals until they become real for you.
To "fake it till you make it", is what I think is acting as if.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
