Married for 15 years to a "functioning" alcoholic. Good man when sober, not so hot when drunk.
March of this year, my stepfather killed my mother. June, stepfather dropped dead before he could be sentenced. Neither had wills, so I started the process of closing out their estates.
Meanwhile, hubby's daughter from his first marriage gets hooked on heroin and runs away. This means we're both focusing away from the marriage... and guess what.
June, he begins fb chat and OEA with old high school friend. July, he goes into rehab for alcohol abuse. She visits him there frequently. He comes home in August and begins seeing her in our home while I'm at work.
September, he suggests I stay at mom's condo while I work on it to avoid commute. While I'm there he abandons our house and moves in with OW. Claims I left him and thus it wasn't infidelity, since we were already separated.
Fast-forward through drama and he has left OW and come home over Thanksgiving holiday, claiming to know "where he belongs" and "where he needs to be". He says he wants to stay married and put it all behind us, yet he's dragging her along on a little text-leash. I find this unacceptable.
He still texts and emails her on the sly, and gets enraged when I check behind him and find out. He even had nude pics of her pulled up on the PC (where they were quite easily seen, not hidden) and accused me of "pilfering" when I reacted.
My question to the community as a whole is, how does one approach the privacy barrier with a newly-returned cheater? How much privacy is too much, and how do you tell someone they've lost the right to EXPECT privacy?
