Getting through the storm

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I need help figuring out how to respond to STBX's latest text.

History - for our entire marriage our finances have been seperate, we just never got them set up jointly. So we split the bills based on our incomes of who would pay what. It has been that way forever.

Since BD it hasn't changed. Our incomes haven't changed so we still pay the bills we are responsible for. I know that will change but we haven't reached a financial agreement yet.

I sent him an FYI text yesterday with the power bill amount. He said he would take care of it and then "you're going to have to start helping with the bills".

WTH? I already helped him by getting my own cell plan, unexpectedly. He knows I don't have any additional income to take on more bills. Once we are divorced and I am on my own I have a huge deficit of expenses vs income, which is why I am fighting for more child support and alimony. I just don't know how to reply.

I asked my L of we could talk about it in the collaborative meeting but he wants to know if this is a rational convo I can have with him on the side. I don't think he is in a place to hear anything from me. Help!