2nd marriage. Been together since 2002. W had an affair back in 2010 to 2012 with someone who would travel to town. OM was also having an affair of his own with another women here in town. Strange situation. W broke it off.
W is bipolar and diagnosed as being sexual anorexic. Since the end of the affair that W broke off, W says she does not like sex. So it is hard. We have no intimacy in our relationship. It's like we cohabitate for the most part. If we do have sex I feel like I have to beg or ask for permission. Even then if W agrees W is very reluctant and comes across resentful like it is a chore of something she has to do.
Think W is now having a Cyber affair with someone overseas. W has told me that she met her male friend via Facebook. They play word with friends and chat. Been going on for over a year and half. W past behavior has sent pics of herself in lingerie. So not sure she has reverted back to old habits or become even more risque.
W mode of operation is to ask for forgiveness. Don’t think W would share with me her chats. W recation would most likely be and feels like it is an invasion of her privacy.
So with the bipolar and sexual anorexia I feel like I am in a relationship that W will only share what she wants to share. Not sure she is 100% committed to our relationship. Trying to cope and be sensitive to W’s illness.
W does not want to even work or do anything about her illness of the sexual anorexia. Does take meds for the bipolar. W seeing a T. W did share with me that the T was working with her to go through the 12 steps. W doesn’t want to, doesn’t like it. W only does things that she likes. It seems that if it takes any work on her part, she just shuts down.
I feel like I am cursed with W’s and women.
Feedback and in-sights welcome on how to further cope welcome.
My 1st W was bi-polar, she started (as my present wife did hmmm) chatting online then having the affair out of state. I know my current W has been up and down but not bipolar, but same outcome.
So as the Dr. told me, "when someone is bi-polar their chances of an affair grow enormously. To the 70% tile" SOrry man, I'm going through this again! 2nd wife, and yes I'm F8kn cursed too. I can only say this, it's not you man! She needs to get help, big time help! Sadly the medicine they give even deteriorates their sex drive even more (although as I said, only with me of course). it's sh*tty place to be, I've been there and sadly with my 2nd W. I'm trying to work through it, and it's not easy.. Good luck man, I'm all ears if you need someone to talk too.
She's definitely not 100% committed to the R if she's focused on male friendships. If she's bipolar, etc. then there are things she can do to get help and you can support her in that if you wish. If she is unwilling, I think the only thing you can do is protect yourself.
