New relationship, exciting but scary!!

[RosaLinda]

Gee I'm happy for you, CP, and know this isn't a rebound. Remember that we all have triggers and fears from all of the heartache and deception we've been through the past couple of years, including this new guy, especially as he was not a DBer.

It's probably much harder for him, not having gone through the process. Of course he is scared. Scared of being vulnerable, scared of being abandoned, scared of trusting, scared of being hurt again. We all are.

But I truly believe the chance of finding love again is worth the risk of being hurt again. You have done the work, and know what you are looking for in a life partner. But he has not. So all you can do is to show him that you are not his ex wife, that you are not controlling or vindictive, that you live your life honestly with class, honor and dignity, and that you do not expect him to become some sort of instant father to your (amazing) kids. And the only way to do that is to show him through your consistent actions.

I agree with Mutatio, go slowly, but DO take the risk and give love a chance. And I love you CP