Complaint 1. I don't organise childcare arrangements - W has to ALWaYS sort it out. Complaint 2. My job gets in the way of her social life.
In this instance both complaints were valid BUT all 3 of us were to blame. Babysitter didn't inform us she would be unavailable. I didn't confirm babysitter when I knew I would be late home. W didn't confirm babysitter when she knew 3 weeks ago that I would be late home.
In fact after sending a few texts W was able to sort alternative arrangements.
Also when I tried to sort out childcare arrangements on my own a few weeks ago I was criticised by W for 'pushing her out'.
W can be quite controlling in this respect. She has a perfectionist nature and perfectionists demand perfection in themselves AND others. When she doesn't achieve 'perfection' she is highly self critical and when others don't achieve perfection ...well she criticises them ... And me.
She has OCD behaviours, relating to lifestyle .She doesn't eat wheat (intolerance), doesn't eat meat (lifestyle choice) , doesn't drink caffeine (lifestyle), only drinks sparkling wine, and in my view is a workaholic.. She also can't say no to an invitation. And in her words ' hates asking for favours' but will always give favours. This is what she hated about the babysitter fail - she had to ask a favour of a friend!
An example is going out for a meal. She will order the fish dish, and then complain as it often isn't cooked to her high standards - she is a very good cook.
She often says in a joking way, I'm high maintenance, and it's true!
But she does obviously have a lot of redeeming qualities which far outweigh her perfectionist, OCD,
I will list try to list all her complaints from down the years, with her list of what I had to fix back in 2012
Last edited by isittoolate; 12/02/1501:59 PM.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
