Here is my story in a nutshell, 1st BD of ilybinilwy was early 2013, and my husband left me early 2014. I had done a lot of divorce busting and tried to save my marriage and he ended up leaving in 2014. Since separating I have done an incredible amount of work on myself through counselling, analyzing, talking with friends, reading books, etc and I feel that I am aa pretty good place right now. I feel strong and happy and I feel very detached from my ex and get along fairly well smile We have young children and have worked out all of our financial and custody arrangements, etc.

I am now dating a wonderful man! He caught me off guard. He is everything I have ever looked for or imagined in a partner and more. He is kind, funny, adventurous, understanding, empathetic, wild, handsome and genuinely a good person and beyond that we hit it off immediately and have had amazing times together. I am falling in love, if not already and he has told me he is as well.

The other night, however he told me that he considered breaking it off with me but every time he comes to my house and sees me he cannot ever imagine losing me. We had a big talk and decided to stay together. He has told me he is intimidated by the fact that I have children. He also has 2 children. He is not sure about him being in the father type role with my children. I feel he is scared. He also worries about freedom, he was in a relationship where his wife wouldn't allow him to have his weekends away hiking and he felt constricted and now he was getting his freedom back again but now he is in a relationship again. I think he worries about his work and life and family balance and gets anxiety over that.

All I can think about is the fun we have together and how I feel about him. He is so wonderful and we have amazing fun times. I can't imagine losing him. I want to just take a risk because I feel I owe it to myself to see if this can lead somewhere, yet I feel at such risk of being hurt by him! I am confused and conflicted!!

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