I think the 'we'll see' response is okay, and then nearer the time, maybe just have plans & be busy. Truly, read the LRT stuff again and apply to the letter - I'm sure that's the way to go - and the clear message is - that's enough for me now. I won't live like that and will move forward with my own life now. It's your best shot I believe. Explore what life will be like without her in your life. What will you do? Who with and so on.

She has been likely been holding on to 'what if' thoughts about OM for many years and it has to run it's course. It didn't before and it needs to now. That doesn't happen overnight and I don't think being friend - back burner husband - plan B etc is the way to go...

JMHO of course xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus