Monday W was grumpy as hell in the evening , but she did later apologise and also thanked me for helping her wrapping some presents.
The grumpiness was caused by a gripe that has been present for years, but is accepted when the R is good, but magnified after BD.
W has long resented my job getting in the way of her social life. For instance if I am away all week, she has a full time very busy job and has to manage the two boys including there after school activities all by herself. It's a tough job, though it's getting slightly easier as S 11 is more independent. She can't go out in the week and feels trapped.....if we separate will it be different? I guess she will have more time in the week and also some weekends, but equally will miss being involved with kids activities and will be alone some nights.
I am in Sweden the next three days getting home late on Friday approx 9pm. W is going to a Duran Duran concert, and presumed our regular babysitter would look after the kids. No. Babysitter can't do Friday so it becomes my fault as she has had the concert booked for 6 months and my work booking is recent.
I argued that was unfair, she relented said she had got over it , and later apologised, but still remained a little grumpy.
The evening ended well watching our favourite prog. the Walking Dead.
Tuesday ...not a lot happened. W wasn't warm like at the weekend, but wasn't cold either, just indifferent.
I noticed this morning when I left to go to airport at 5:45am her room light was on. She still isn't sleeping well, and she can be very grumpy when she gets no sleep.
Anyway I am going to take the next two/three days to reassess my sitch. Look at what is working, look at how I can improve, look at my goals. I will also list my good points, what I borough to our marriage and also how I failed. More introspection.
I would love Mr Bond to comment on how I am doing as since he told me to assess whether or not everything I do moves me towards or away from R with W, that is what I have been doing.
Ok snooping is not good, but I need to know whether W is having a full EA, and treat the sitch accordingly.
I will not retrieve my device until Sat or Sun.. 7/8 days of data
Last edited by isittoolate; 12/02/1508:39 AM.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
