Hi Sotto. Don't worry it is 10 pages back! Briefly wife worked for OM, had a PA about 8 years back. Told me she was going to leave, he was married and he decided to stay in his M. W was sacked and we stayed together. We have been together in an affectionate way ever since. I failed to really work on confronting the problems then.His wife finally divorced him, took most of what he had, he now is an employee in his own company., which is doing badly.He has since lived with another woman. Don't know for certain but I think she was some sort of distant friend of W. She died and some months ago he restarted R with W. She even went on holiday with him this summer after telling me she was going with friends from Yoga group. He owes money to banks and so lives in an old apartment owned by his sister. During the first time her psychologist told me that she had an obsession with him and until she saw him as he really was... I had hoped being sacked had done that. She was angry with him then and grateful that I had kept our family going. When she left two months ago she really thought that S and I would be wanting to be with her everyday. S's disinterest has surprised her. My gradual detaching has too. First days we texted and met a lot but now I just send her weekly financial news and not much else. She wants me to be the supportive friend as I always have been. When the time came to leave no one helped her pack. I did and she said I was her best friend etc. The last few weeks I'm responding less and less. When she came to basket we didn't hug and kiss for the first time. I know she wants us to spend time together but when she's free and on her terms. As I have said before she doesn't want to take OM to her family, she'd be happy for me to go. she even said she'd be fine sharing a bed!
