Wait in the home or move out?

[runn79r]

My wife had an affair three years ago with a long time college friend that she knew before me. They never dated or admitted their feelings for each other until this point and that's when the flood gates opened. We were able to get past that and reconnect our marriage. She went no contact with him for almost three years and then broke the rule. three months after that they started sleeping together, I found out and we've separated. She says she's conflicted about ending our marriage but needs to see things through with the OM because of the potential for a wonderful relationship with him (long history, better communication etc).

So I'm doing my best to move on, keep her at arms length, follow all the rules. My question is whether or not I should move out of the house. We have a basement suite that I've been living in, it's made it easier to manage the transition with our daughter. Am I better off to stay in the house for proximity and staying top of mind (while detaching and not pursuing) or should I move out so that she is hit with the long term reality of how much harder things will be coordinating our daughters life etc. Currently we have strict rules about not bringing other people into the house or our daughters knowledge until we are sure they are someone who is going to be permanent (discuss first)and I have no concerns over either of us keeping that promise.