I not sure I would call it dependent but I am here quite a bit. I really and truly care for you and the rest of my friends here. I wake up and check the forum to see if someone posted and needs support. I check in from work and off and on all evening. I am not dependent, I deeply care for my friends. I got more support from you people on my single post about my 7 year sobriety anniversary then I have gotten in all of 2015 from my wife.
Pho, When you said "My attraction for him is slowly fading", I have to admit it sadden me. It reminds me of how my wife must have felt. I also feel sad for your husband, you are slipping through his fingers and he doesn't see it. I am afraid he will end up like me, a day late and a dollar short. Please don't give up on him yet. I have started crying as I'm typing this out. Your thought really hit me hard. This empathy thing can really have an effect on you. I can't believe I am pleading for the guy who treated my friend like *&^%$#@! I am, even though he treated you horribly. I am advocating for him quite honestly because I am facing the same fate and I want someone, anyone to stand up for him/me.
I have be hurt by my wife also, my wife had an affair, she has said things that really cut to the bone. I understand what he has shoveled onto your plate. With that understanding, I am asking you as a friend who cares for your well being, please don't give up on him yet.
I feel a bit of clarification is needed. I am not suggesting amnesty or even a commuted sentence. Strapping into the electric chair is okay, all I'm asking is that you don't throw the switch. Let him live, let him have a chance a little bit longer. Maybe with a little more time he can get his head out of his tuches.
