Unlurking to share my story

[SciDad]

Sandi,

Thank you for replying, your insights are invaluable to guys like me. Your description of not being in the same room is what we had until I confronted my wife (although maybe not quite as dramatic as that). That's why I saw her actions as a good sign. I snooped for the last tI mean yesterday and saw her texting the om kisses and saying how she wanted to spend the rest of her life with him.

So yeah, still wayward. And I'm trying to pretend I never saw that but it's tough. Although being repulsed by your wife's actions does make it easier for me not to try anything physical....