We did only three sessions of MC until I realized it wasn't going to do any good. We have since stopped joint counsel. We are both going IC and I take it as a good sign on her part. I believe she has been struggling with some depression and unresolved issues tied to her low self esteem. She has always had body image issues (I don't know why, she looks great) even since having the cosmetic surgery. Yes I now understand why MC does not work when she is actively seeking OP. One of those things I had to see to believe.
M: 39 W:38 D: 11 S: 7 T: 18 M:13 I suspect problem: 8/15 ILYB: 9/15 Never quit on love I ask her to leave:10/15
Well sandi it didn't take long for your prediction to come true. W texted me could she take D to MILs with her on Tuesdays and Thursdays to avoid having to drive 20 miles out of her way. D has dance on these days and it runs till 8:00 PM. We wouldn't want to interfere with W beauty sleep now would we. I simply replied 1-1/2 hour later that we could discuss it when she gets here with D tonight. I don't want to disrupt D normal routine to avoid inconveniencing W. Any thoughts on verbiage?
M: 39 W:38 D: 11 S: 7 T: 18 M:13 I suspect problem: 8/15 ILYB: 9/15 Never quit on love I ask her to leave:10/15
When she got here with D this evening she was acting kinda quiet and standoffish, I knew she was worried about what I was going to say about her taking D to MILs on dance days. She squeaked out " what about just Tuesdays?" I looked at her and said I didn't want to disrupt the kids' stability at all right now. She immediately just said OK. That was that. She left, I put the kids to bed. Maybe I'm pushing too hard?
M: 39 W:38 D: 11 S: 7 T: 18 M:13 I suspect problem: 8/15 ILYB: 9/15 Never quit on love I ask her to leave:10/15
I feel like I am doing the right thing, it just seems a little a$$holish sometimes. I do love her after all. I'm not used to this. DB is counterintuitive. Thank you for the support.
M: 39 W:38 D: 11 S: 7 T: 18 M:13 I suspect problem: 8/15 ILYB: 9/15 Never quit on love I ask her to leave:10/15
I would accept the concert invite. She is reaching out, making connection. Just assess whether she is cake eating or not
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
