We have only discussed the "structured separation " once. Neither is really pushing for it though. I'm still on the fence about it. On one hand I like the idea of a timetable and kids schedule being defined, but then I think it's pretty much being in an open marriage and is just enabling her waywardness that much longer. I suppose there just isn't any good way to handle these things.
If the couple can co-parent well, then that's great. However, some WW's will take advantage of the LBH and change the schedules around to suit themselves and whatever selfish mood they have. In those cases, a structured separation works better, IMHO. I hope your W will put her strength toward getting healed and not fighting over the schedules. And on your end, I hope you can continue to have a good heart and not get calloused. Yes, there are definitely consequences in choices, and she may be paying with her life. I hope not, if only for your child.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
