Still on the first chapter

[Enigma]

Thank you Sandi. As always very much appreciate your comments. I will respond in red as I can see how I've been confusing.

I don't think I will agree to watching S2 straight away as I'm thinking... what if I've already had plans? What would she do then?

Or.....she could think you intentionally held her off to punish her, thus causing her to retaliate. I would try to keep things as cooperative as possible through this month, for everyone's sake.

[/color]This is true and can be perceived by her to be punishing. As she doesn't know the exact date of her surgery (she thinks sometime in January), I will respond that right now I'm open to timing as nothing currently planned in January, but if she would let me know as soon as she gets the surgery date so I can maintain other plans that month as early as possible. This way I can accommodate under cooperative arrangement. As I think about this more, I also see how stressful this surgery may be and don't want S2 to be in the middle of stress if can be avoided.[color:#FF0000]

I'm not doing this to be harsh, but consequences of events are as they are meant to be.

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I realize this didn't make any sense I guess I was trying to say that not immediately agreeing to watch S2 after surgery is not intentionally harsh. And if I couldn't for whatever reason, she would need to find another person to help. I know she wouldn't be happy... but I was trying to say that no one asked for this new life we have between us. We are now living two separate lives with common co-parenting obligation. And I realize that anything I focus on has to benefit S2 first and foremost. No matter how [censored] this situation is, always will try to do the right thing not only because it is the right thing to do in a loving way... but also that I know S2 will be watching and looking up and the right example needs to be set. Demonstrate by "actions". Hmmmm where have I heard this before?[color:#FF0000]

I understand the holidays are a tough time of year given these circumstances. But I look at it this way... I'm grateful for what I have in my life today... there are many who are in very unfortunate circumstances that deserve more attention and care than anything I endure. And when I put things in perspective, I know I am blessed.

Great attitude!