Thank you Zeus, Jelly, Sotto and rd for chiming in, it really does help to get everyone's opinions on this.
Rd, I'm glad you came out of retirement you have such a succinct way of putting things that makes sense to me. My trip is still happening, I know I'm getting D'ed, and I'm still ok with it. I'm not OK not having my W in my life, but know I will get there. Next year's travels and adventures will be a big part of filling the hole that was left in me with her departure.
BD'ing feels so much like swimming from one island to another, one far out in the distance that we can't even see. I can see the silhouette of that far island now. It's still a long way off, and I'm tired from getting thrown around in the waves and having fish take bites of me, but I feel the current pulling me towards that silhouette and honestly it feels good.
The thought of going back the old island hurts my soul as it would mean living a life that was so far out of alignment I can't fathom it any more.
I can now say with complete confidence, I miss my W, but I don't miss my M.
One step at a time, one stroke at a time towards the new land.
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17