I do want to keep the kids as stable as possible but I think that having her deal with running them back and forth will create more inconvenience for her and could cause another sense of loss. She would have to drive at least two hours more per day to pull it off. Nobody wants to deal with that. It just feels kinda manipulative to put the kids in that position.
I know that they would adapt and probably wouldn't mind it too much because they would be at grammas house after all. They get away with murder over there. It would put them in the car a lot though. I will have to keep thinking about this one for a while. I guess right now I am practicing "firm love" not quite up to the "tough love" yet.
What makes people do this? I realize that there is something broken within them but it seems like they would rather go through it with someone they have been with and trusted for all these years. Instead of introducing new problems. Just complicating an already complicated situation.
M: 39 W:38 D: 11 S: 7 T: 18 M:13 I suspect problem: 8/15 ILYB: 9/15 Never quit on love I ask her to leave:10/15
