Thank you all for your support. It was not hard to do because I saw what the drinking was doing to my marriage and my children. I spent hard earned money to pour poison down my throat and damage the people I love. This was selfishness. My only regret is that I believed the drinking caused the problems and abstinence would solve them. We were in a marital crisis and needed professional help. That was then and this is now.
My wife owes a friend a homemade gift and asked me last year if I would make a particular thing for her to give to the friend. I had said yes but because the equipment was not working at the time so I was unable to make it. I have the equipment fully functional now. She has forgotten about it and will most probably will blow off the debt. This would be a surprise for her. My questions is:
Should I make it as a gift to my wife knowing she will give it to her friend?
Should I give her a gift so she fulfills a debt?
Should I make her something after she said don't make me any more gifts?
