Need Help (new thread)

[Zues126]

In my experience...as long as WW still looks like the only outlet to meet your emotional needs, you will feel loving to her. Once you learn to meet those needs elsewhere and don't 'need' her anymore, then you will find that she doesn't look as attractive as you will associate her with the pain and destruction she caused.

So to your point, yes, it is normal. I think it is healthy as this means you're being honest with yourself about how you feel.

The only thing to be aware of is that how you feel is just that- how you feel. This really shouldn't impact your personal or long term goals. Remember, the only reason WW left was because she followed her feelings. When she wasn't getting her emotional needs met through you and began to feel anger, she took that to mean you were incapable of meeting them and that you two weren't right for each other (also because the person that was meeting those needs started appearing noble and good through those rose tinted glasses).

As long as you understand that feelings follow circumstances then go ahead and process your feelings, and actually celebrate your progress towards detachment. Just make sure to steer the ship based on your values and beliefs.