Good work Pho! The skill now will be between you and therapist that H doesn't scapegoat D for this.
But I believe you presented this as best anyone could. You are letting husband know exactly where your allegiances lie. The notion of a united front and you guys as a team dealing with problems are exactly the seeds you a rightly planting. The huge bonus too, you actually got to be completely authentic about how you feel. You honored yourself and H. You should be mighty proud!!
