Wayward Wife, my addiction, advice needed

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gs9, thank you for the post.

What complicates things is my addiction. It's in check, and I'm seeing a counselor for it. By next year, I'll be in a men's recovery group, and seeing them for 2 hours a week. My wife thinks I have a built-in excuse, and even told our MC that she thought it was 'convenient' of me to use the addiction as an excuse. I've hurt her, but she can't have empathy for me when she's still emotionally involved with someone else... thus my boundary of NC and full access. That hasn't happened yet, but I'm open to anything my wife wants to see - happy to do it. I have nothing to hide. She, on the other hand, won't let go.