Walkaway Wife/WW/MLC Part 2

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Doing what works is generally for couples working on their marriage. Although a good idea, the problem with the 'doing what works' attitude post BD is that it implies that there is something that can be done to control a WAS (also many LBH's view 'working' as behavior that is actually manipulation). She has clearly started a long journey that will lead her who knows where. You can't stop that. All you can do is prolong it by allowing her to avoid consequences and be her plan B. I don't begrudge you the letters, but at this point I'd recommend you create and maintain more emotional distance from her. One to prevent her from cake eating, and two to allow her to miss you and wonder what losing you would be like. This isn't to bring her back to you. It's your last gift of love, that you love her enough to allow her to experience the consequences of her choices so she has the opportunity to make healthier choices some day down the road.